First let me be perfectly honest! I am not the best mom on the planet. I yell (alot), I ground, I do not let them watch TV during the week. I don't think they should be involved in adult conversations, and I really enjoy my alone adult time (no kids!). I want the strongest relationship to be with Honey, because let's face it, they will eventually grow up and move out! My mother once told me, if a couple can get through the kid years, the rest is cake. We are two down and four to go.
But, on the other hand we spend a great deal of time in family bonding! We have dinner together and a big family breakfast on Saturdays. We go to movies, the gym and walking as a family. We coach their sport teams and when they know it all, we sit on the sidelines and watch. (You would be amazed at the number of parents that don't!) We say goodnight/good morning with kisses and love yous. We text it and hug alot!
I make them mind their manners at restaurants and when we go to people's houses! (Don't embarrass me and I will not embarrass you! Don't be a pig, don't take the largest or last piece of food!) I am a stickler about table manners! I mean I am tough, I still remind teenagers to remove arms from the table, chew with mouths closed, no talking with food in their mouths. May you and will you (with please). I don't like loud.
I can't help it. I want to be that relaxed mom. But I can't. I can only think that I have to teach them to be adults that function well in society! I do not want them to think it is always someone elses fault. I mean, really? If people were honest with themselves, whatever it is, you usually contribute to the problem. I want to be that mom, I envy those moms. My sisters tell me all the time, they cannot believe I actually yell at my kids. But they do not have teenagers. But they probably won't yell even then. I envy them also. Because their kids are really good kids. My kids are good also, I'm just really tough on them. But they never leave the house without me saying I love you. (Ok, usually it's love you!)
They do have a balance because Honey is that Mom. Well, a little tougher then that mom but not by much. We are good cop, bad cop! Guess who is who!
My dog on the other hand...is a tyrant! Because I don't have to release him into the world, to survive out there without me. He just has to sit on my lap and be cute. That's it. He has some manners, and I still don't like loud. But he can be awful and it's cute! (Not to Honey, just to me. Again, my dog!)
I hope this all made sense. It was in my head and I wanted it out. I love being a mom. I just wish I was a different one.